Search for Love goes International

I read yet another enraging news article since the whole gay marriage argument on Thursday's San Diego Union Tribute titled "Search for Love goes International" where men explained their mail order bribes by saying how they want "nice christian girls with traditional values that they feel are lacking in women at home". Dare I ask what these "traditional values" are? Women belong in the kitchen?! Let's start from investigating the reason women came out of the kitchen? Hmmmm, could it because the cost of living has been going up and that we need dual incomes? Could it be that women need the ability to be independent because they are maltreated? Perhaps because most of friends tend to be fairly educated. I am please to say that I don't personally know of any men who are intimidated by an intellectual female. In fact, I tend to notice that most up scale, classy, high income men prefer to find a female of the same level. When is the last time you have known/heard of any remotely respectable men resolving to a mail order bribe (oh, I am sorry, that is not politically correct, their international lovers). Growing up in Asia (Hong Kong), I've seen too many cases with women with traditional values walking straight from their high school classrooms into their husbands' kitchens. Fifteen years and two kids later the men decided that they wants a younger and prettier wife. I never did understand, being under British rule, why alimony and childs upport was unheard of in HK. These women who had never worked a day in their lives were being kicked out of their house along with their children. What choices do they have? Factory worker? Prostitues? Or to kill themselves along with their kids? (Yes, that really happened.)

I generally dislike religious people. I think (at least those that are VERY religious) are nothing but selfish and narrow-minded (again, I refer to the gay marriage issue). However, I don't even think that 'religion' is the reason here. It's merely being used as a disguise. Why not just say they are looking the traditional submissive females in their fantasies? The spokeperson for one of the website said, "It's not like (Filipina women) will become career-minded..." And exactly what is wrong with being career-minded? Can these men who wants submissive female afford to support a non working wives and several kids?

And this statement made by another website was even more enraging, "She is the weaker gender and knows it." HUH??? Weaker as in HOW?? If she is solely talking about physical strength than I am not going to aruge with her. OF COURSE women are weaker PHYSICALLY. That would be a stupid statement. But if she meant weaker in other sense, i.e. mentally, stamina or intelligence. I think she's a total idiot, to say the least. What kind of backward thinking is that women are of a lesser gender? I'd like to point out that according to a statistics a few years ago, female college students have already exceeded the number of male college students. Granted, you still might not see as much successful career women because, in the end, when one wants a family, it's mostly the women who has to choose between her career or staying home with the kids. That is not backward, it's a choice.

Again, according to a news article in Newsweek a few months ago, more and more females became the breadwinner of the household because the husbands got laid off. Isn't it nice to have something to fall back on? Doesn't the women temporarily picking up the burden beats the entire family plunging into financial dipshit?

Bottomline, this is not about traditional or Christian values, this is merely exploitation of women. And I quote "Many women's rights advocates say the industry is a recipe for disaster because it markets stereotyped images of the bride and the groom and creates a relationship built on false expectations." That is the least of my marriage. I think the real issue here is the safety of the women with traditional values. Men who believe that women are of a lesser gender also tend to be spousal abusers. Yes, these women chose to marry a stranger for a chance of life in the US, understandable. But no women with or without traditional values will consciously choose a life time of abuse. Worse yet, being the stranger in the stranger land, they won't even know where to turn for help when abuses occur.

The changing roles of males and females are a form of social evolution. So to those men who are looking for women with the so-called traditional values, how about putting down those clubs of yours, get out of your cave and try to increase your brain size and catch up with the rest of us?