Marriage, Mine

They, the infamous they, say that the first two years of the marriage is the roughest. Frankly I think that's a load of bull. If you are having issues in the first two years of marriage when you really should be in your honeymoon period, buddy, you've married the wrong person. Marriage requires work, they say. Yes, perhaps at a later stage, and it's not suppose to be that much work work.

They (studies) also show that cross cultural or cross class or cross educational or cross religion marriage tend to be harder to maintain, the worse sort being the female having the higher educational level. As an Asian female with a bachelor's degree raised in a middle income family in Hong Kong who married a white boy from the midwest with a military background, Hubby and I has a surprisingly overlapping set of values and we see eye to eye in most every issues that we've encountered in our married life.

Ironically, whilst we sailed through the first two and a half years of our marriage like we just got married yesterday, 80% of our arguments stemmed from one of our common interest -- video gaming. No, I don't complaint about him playing video games too much -- which seems to be the problem of other guys -- we play many (okay, just two) games together. Both of us being very good at the games we play and also very competitive, I couldn't figure out why that was the main source of our arguments for the longest time and then it hit me. Hubby and I tend to make very conservative decisions in real life, espeically when it comes to financial decisions (we would probably never make it big in the stock market T.T). While hubby carried his conversative nature into his gaming environment, I tend to make more risk-taking decisions. It's simply more fun that way, in my opinion. And that had led to our biggest difference. XD Now if only hubby will adopt the proper way of enjoying our video gaming hobby.... :D