More on Gay Marriage

Yes, I am extremely passionate about this issue. You'll probably hear a lot more of my whining and bitching before this issue is resolved, and hopefully the resolution will be a civilized one.

What is this with the constituation ban on gay marriage? Our president wants to add discrimination into the amendments? Isn't that against what us Americans have been fighting for? The ultimate equality? If homosexuals are discriminated in the Constitution what's next? Do they still have equal rights at their work places? Where do you draw the line? This is simply outrageous. And that is what I meant by religious people are selfish and narrow-minded.

One guy's justification for his opposition was that "how do I explain this to my son?" Um... I don't know. Have you tried telling him it's a good thing for two person who are in love, regardless of their genders, to choose to spend their lives together? What do you tell your son about the Catholic priests molesting boys his age? Or that the Dioeces are protecting these criminals? What do you tell your son about the enraged man who murdered his wife? Or the wife who was tired of spousal abuse and ended up finally shooting her husband? Or the father who impregnant his biological daughter and the mother who doesn't want her daughter to say a word about it? What do you tell him?

Some compared the gay marriage issue with when Blacks were asked to sit on the back of a bus. Some (all?) in the Black communities do not appreciate this comparison. In my opinion (not being Black), they are identical. Discrimination is discrimination. A few decades ago interracial marriage was illegal. There are no justification for discrimination.

Search for Love goes International

I read yet another enraging news article since the whole gay marriage argument on Thursday's San Diego Union Tribute titled "Search for Love goes International" where men explained their mail order bribes by saying how they want "nice christian girls with traditional values that they feel are lacking in women at home". Dare I ask what these "traditional values" are? Women belong in the kitchen?! Let's start from investigating the reason women came out of the kitchen? Hmmmm, could it because the cost of living has been going up and that we need dual incomes? Could it be that women need the ability to be independent because they are maltreated? Perhaps because most of friends tend to be fairly educated. I am please to say that I don't personally know of any men who are intimidated by an intellectual female. In fact, I tend to notice that most up scale, classy, high income men prefer to find a female of the same level. When is the last time you have known/heard of any remotely respectable men resolving to a mail order bribe (oh, I am sorry, that is not politically correct, their international lovers). Growing up in Asia (Hong Kong), I've seen too many cases with women with traditional values walking straight from their high school classrooms into their husbands' kitchens. Fifteen years and two kids later the men decided that they wants a younger and prettier wife. I never did understand, being under British rule, why alimony and childs upport was unheard of in HK. These women who had never worked a day in their lives were being kicked out of their house along with their children. What choices do they have? Factory worker? Prostitues? Or to kill themselves along with their kids? (Yes, that really happened.)

I generally dislike religious people. I think (at least those that are VERY religious) are nothing but selfish and narrow-minded (again, I refer to the gay marriage issue). However, I don't even think that 'religion' is the reason here. It's merely being used as a disguise. Why not just say they are looking the traditional submissive females in their fantasies? The spokeperson for one of the website said, "It's not like (Filipina women) will become career-minded..." And exactly what is wrong with being career-minded? Can these men who wants submissive female afford to support a non working wives and several kids?

And this statement made by another website was even more enraging, "She is the weaker gender and knows it." HUH??? Weaker as in HOW?? If she is solely talking about physical strength than I am not going to aruge with her. OF COURSE women are weaker PHYSICALLY. That would be a stupid statement. But if she meant weaker in other sense, i.e. mentally, stamina or intelligence. I think she's a total idiot, to say the least. What kind of backward thinking is that women are of a lesser gender? I'd like to point out that according to a statistics a few years ago, female college students have already exceeded the number of male college students. Granted, you still might not see as much successful career women because, in the end, when one wants a family, it's mostly the women who has to choose between her career or staying home with the kids. That is not backward, it's a choice.

Again, according to a news article in Newsweek a few months ago, more and more females became the breadwinner of the household because the husbands got laid off. Isn't it nice to have something to fall back on? Doesn't the women temporarily picking up the burden beats the entire family plunging into financial dipshit?

Bottomline, this is not about traditional or Christian values, this is merely exploitation of women. And I quote "Many women's rights advocates say the industry is a recipe for disaster because it markets stereotyped images of the bride and the groom and creates a relationship built on false expectations." That is the least of my marriage. I think the real issue here is the safety of the women with traditional values. Men who believe that women are of a lesser gender also tend to be spousal abusers. Yes, these women chose to marry a stranger for a chance of life in the US, understandable. But no women with or without traditional values will consciously choose a life time of abuse. Worse yet, being the stranger in the stranger land, they won't even know where to turn for help when abuses occur.

The changing roles of males and females are a form of social evolution. So to those men who are looking for women with the so-called traditional values, how about putting down those clubs of yours, get out of your cave and try to increase your brain size and catch up with the rest of us?

Affirmative Action

I refer to an article (sorry all, I was unable to find this article online again) from Friday's San Diego Tribute in which the authro stated his opinion that all the minority competitions are more of a degrade than anything else. It was the author's opinion that the competition was short of saying, "You are pretty good, for a black or Hispanic". For the most part, I agree with him. What is the point of being the best "among all minority competitors". It certainly does not say anything about one's ability among the rest of the peer groups. However, how fair is a multi-racial competition? The writer of the article apparently reside in San Diego. And I, I have been living in California for 16 years and Sacramento the last 6. Sacramento is one of the most racially diverse city in this country. I do not feel that I was ever discriminated because of either my race or my gender. (Well, I was sexually harrassed at my first part time job in high school, but we are talking about stupid high school boys here, alright?) I was never aware that I am a non white female. (Okay, sometimes people like to do the "where you from?" thing to me, but that's more of an annoyance than discrimination.)

I refer to the national TV show "Who wants to be a millionaire." I've watched at most 4 episodes of this show. And I couldn't help but to notice that whenever a colored or female canditate sit on the chair, the questions were NOT of the same level. It's like they deliberated would not let them make very far. I've also watched the one episode when it's a father-son team. When the black father-son team came up, they didn't even made it through the first five (usually common sense, grade school level type of questions that even non native would know) questions. That was NOT because they were not as good as the white male competitors, but their questions were of a different class altogether. And this is national TV we are talking about. Are they really that afraid that once in a blue moon (it's hard to made it to the final level) a colored person OR a female could become a millionaire? I've also heard that charges or complaints have been pressed against the show but I did not follow up on the outcome of them.

Regardless, this entry is not about the TV show, but about a all race competition in general. I do not believe that at this day and age and in some states, a truely fair competition is always possible. So long as the judges have available data on the competitors' race and gender, the outcome might not be based entirely on one's ability. A truly fair competition not necessarily have to be "minorities only" or "white only", but I suggest an entirely different system in which competitors are identified by a number and only a number. Afterall, what's the point of making "race" and "gender" optional when one's name says it all?